About monogamous relationships

I believe that it is within the spirit of humankind to create, nurture, and sustain healthy, monogamous relationships from which both couples and children benefit. Even in our modern age, most men and women continue to seek a lifelong partner, and couples who marry continue to promise and expect sexual fidelity. When they do, their future children are rooted in that promise. Sexual affairs break the promise through secrecy and lies, and children can’t help but feel the painful effects, regardless of their age. According to the survey undertaken for my book 'Parents who cheat', as well as the hundreds of clients I have treated, most children are hurt by their parent’s infidelity because, like the deceived parent, they feel betrayed. And like 93 percent of the American public,2 they still believe that marital fidelity is the most important element in a successful marriage.

-Dr. Ana Nogales